Blogs for Katrina Relief 09/01/2005
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My name is Phil and I'm an alcoholic. This blog documents my journey on the "road of happy destiny," the ups and downs of building a new way of life for myself, and hopefully some miracles along the way.
I am inviting all my fellow Bloggers to join me in Blogging for Donations for Hurricane Katrina Relief.
I've been a little whacked out lately. I take Zoloft for depression. (Or, more accurately, sertralina, which is the same stuff, except in Mexico I get it over the counter at a fraction of the cost.) I went off it for a couple months when I first got sober this year, at my shrink's suggestion, and was a complete wreck. So I went back on it, with breathtaking results.
My blog site development is going really well. Here is my latest version.
I want to draw your attention to a scandal of Alaskan proportions. I was horrified to read of a Sunday School teacher tormenting preschoolers with terrifying visions of death. I can only be thankful my own toddler has not been subjected to such a monstrous ordeal.
I've seen some very cool stuff the past week or so in the blogosphere: thought-provoking, gut-wrenching, inspiring and funny. I've wanted to respond, but haven't had many chunks of time to do more than cursory reading.
Scott wrote this in his blog entry for this "tag" thingy that's been going around:
1 Year Ago: 269 days of sobriety. Not working. Just enjoying being sober. Working the steps. Here is my gratitude list from that day:
08.14.04
- For 269 days of getting more than I expected
...- To, day after day, sit with those whose greatest wish is that we all succeed
- That everyone who comes into the rooms makes us stronger
- That hope, given enough respect, becomes a comfortable reality
- To improve on not judging by appearance
- For those stronger than me who let me hold their hand
- That when I am not thinking of God I need not worry because God is always thinking of me
- For growing pains
Logan got tagged, now he's tagged me. Here's my first go-round -- I may add more or modify it later.
A blogging friend just closed down her blog and started a new one, withholding a few previously-known details about her identity. Why? She got into a jam at work, because someone read some things on her blog they didn't like.
I tend to blog about things in my life as they relate to recovery. There's been a pleasant, quiet day-to-day-ness in life and recovery lately, so I haven't seen much blog-worthy stuff going on. I'm eager to start on Step Two again with my sponsor this week. I'll have to make some decisions very soon about whether to move to LA or stay where I am, and therefore whether to move, and therefore where to find a job and start working. The future of my relationship with my wife remains uncertain and stressful. Fairly big stuff, actually. I'm nervous about it, but, by the grace of God, neither fearful nor anxious. I see a lot of things I need to do in my life and in my recovery, but, for the moment at least, they are not overwhelming me.
This was posted today as an anonymous comment to an old post on this blog. I want to highlight it here, hoping the poster will read this and benefit from any advice other readers may have.
This is my 36th day of being sober. Well, it depends on who you talk to; maybe I’m just a dry drunk.
I went into detox, obtained a sponsor, and completed steps 1, 2 and 3.
Since my release I have been attending 2 to 3 AA meetings a week, attending an aftercare program and have stayed sober. Still, I am harassed by my sponsor that I am not attending enough meetings and just making excuses. He said that AA comes before EVERYTHING! Is that really the case? He said that there has to be a substitute for alcohol, whether it is coffee, cigarettes or AA. If I AM making excuses and need a substitute for alcohol, does my daughter not count? Before I even started this program, I had commitments with my daughter.
I’m supposed to be married in November, should I just scrap the whole thing and start going to AA 7 nights a week. I really don’t think that is practical is it? Maybe to some that is there only option.
My life has never been out of control. There has been some bumpy times, but certainly not unmanageable by any means. I went into this program on my own, no trouble with the law or anything. I paid for it on my own, insurance wouldn’t cover it. I just felt that it would be a good thing for me to do, for my health, and my family.
Now I’m feeling very good about myself. My problem is with the way I have been treated by my sponsor. Nothing like “good job for staying sober for 30 days”. Nothing but belittling me. That doesn’t feel very good or rewarding.
I let my sponsor go last night and will be looking for a new one. I’m not counting out AA at this point; I want to give it another chance. Just not sure what is expected of me.
For the record; the ONLY time I really wanted a drink during the past 36 days was when I felt pressure from that sponsor. That’s pretty sad when you think about it.